You are kind of confusing a systemic critique with some kind of personal attack against individual people.
From what seems like a decent enough article on Gender Abolitionism:
Rather, any conception of gender would arise from within, and be part of one’s self-identity, rather than a tool used by society to prescribe a role or identity.
That “prescribe a role or identity” is why it’s useful to get rid of. It leaves people with more freedom to form their identities, not less.
It can be aggravating to be told that something you worked hard to figure out doesn’t matter
I very much like the gender identity that I have; there’s nothing wrong with that.
I’m not confusing anything. It kinda seems like you’re reading something different into what they were saying.
They seem to be saying the ultimately misguided but best possible interpretation of “your gender doesn’t matter to me, so why is it something that comes up?”.Finding your own manner of gender expression and not having it pushed on you from outside doesn’t preclude having language to describe where you end up.
I know they weren’t saying “shut up about your gender, it doesn’t matter”. To someone who is working on finding themselves, or had to work hard to do so, the sentiment can come across that way. For all aspects of identity, people don’t want a “don’t ask, don’t tell” style tolerance in a void. They’d rather have the ability to express their identity, find community and so on.
As such, we need words to communicate these topics.
I very much like the gender identity that I have; there’s nothing wrong with that.
I’m happy for you! I am as well! I’m a little confused as to what that has to do with the bit you quoted though.
