When texting people in general I find it frustrating that people don’t seem to view it as a conversation. If someone texts me and I catch it and text back right away, I get frustrated when people don’t return the favor. They might text back 5, 10, minutes or an hour or more later. Why did you text me if you didn’t want to have a conversation? Why am I the one sitting here waiting for a response?

It’s like someone sitting down across from at a table and asking you “Hey, how ya doin?” You respond “Great! what’s up?” and they just sit there for 10 minutes not saying anything.

Might be the whisper of ASD in my ADHD contributing to not understanding how this social interaction actually works vs how I think it should work.

Anyone else have this grinding their gears?

E: apparently it’s just me!

Thanks for the replies, everyone.

  • Daze
    4•9 months ago

    I second this with Agoraphobic AutADHD. I desperately miss the days of flip phones and simpler IM clients. The “requirement” of having a smartphone in this day & age means that, at a low level, there is always a baseline anxiety present in me from wake to sleep.

    I’m a person that needs alone time every day or I can’t fully destress so knowing that anyone can always get ahold of me, or if they can’t, they expect immediate responses whenever possible stresses me to holy high hell! Thankfully the friends I do have all understand this, so even if a week or a month passes between messages, it’s treated like no time has passed at all. Without that, friendship is nearly impossible lol