A month? I’ve known guys for years and still don’t know their names and it is WAY too late to ask.
That’s when you figure out a reason to hand them a clipboard and say, “Imma need you to sign in.”
I have ADHD (+ other stuff) and so names has always been a massive issue for me. A few years ago I just stopped trying because I don’t talk to most people anyways. out of the ~25 people in this class with me right now (fun fact! I am breaking a law by being on my phone rn :3) I know the name of,
1: teacher
2: girl with pink hair
3: trans friend
4: person who sits next to me and cannot understand what a function is to save his life
5: someone who I sat next to in 3rd gradeThe others, no earthly idea. I have COWORKERS in this class who I don’t know their name 😓
2 things that make it a little bit easier to remember other people’s names is repeating the name of the person after he/she just said it and trying to associate with another person you know that has the same name. It’s not perfect but it’s better than forgetting every single time.
Repeating the name back helped me immensely. I’m still not great with names but I’m so much better than I was.
You are literally burning money. Pay attention as instructors don’t work for free
You do know that telling someone with ADHD to just pay attention is like telling someone on a cane to jog, right?
Dick move in other words
winter break starts tomorrow, I finished pretty much all my work last week. My school makes winter break start next week because of the way the semesters line up.
I was forced to spend 3 hours in the gym today watching a students vs teachers basketball game. The most work I’ve done in the last 3 days is roll a die and draw a snowman depending on those numbers then doing math to figure out the chances of the ordering of them in AP Comp-Sci Principles lolI appreciate the message though. I try to understand all the information I can, even if I’m horrible at Spanish 2 and English 😭
on the bright side, this is the last time I get to say “see ya next year” (I’m a senior in HS)Enjoy winter break. If you aren’t going to college (and I wouldn’t recommend it for most people), this will be the last time you have that much free time unless you live long enough, and make enough money, to retire. Well unless you have a wealthy and generous family. Congratulations if that’s the case, you won the birth lottery!
Sorry to be such a downer. I forget there are high school kids on Lemmy. For what it’s worth I’m sorry about climate change, but that’s largely the fault of my elders and the corporations that control the government.
Register to vote!
You pay for the degree, not the classes.
They could be in 4th grade…
I have ADHD (+ other stuff) and so names has always been a massive issue for me. A few years ago I just stopped trying because I don’t talk to most people anyways.
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I spent more than 4 years working in a place were I just knew the names of the 10 people immediately around me. People kept talking about person X or Y from another floor or room and I had absolutely no fucking idea who they were talking about.
So I travel all over for work at different places. I’ll start telling a story about something that happened three weeks ago to a coworker. “Oh yeah, where were you at?” Me- blank stare half the time.
Sometimes it comes to me after a few seconds, sometimes I can’t even remember which state I was in.
I used to be awful with names but I got better at that. Still below average, but better. I do have ADHD for what that’s worth.
Seems a little early…
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The obvious way out of this situation: open your own kebab place and start calling him bossman or chief.
I fucking detest when people call me bossman.
Here’s a fun way to play it- say “We’ve talked so many times over the years, and I bet you don’t even know my name.”
If he does, explain that you said that because you don’t know his, laugh about it. Get his name and put it in your phone if you think you’ll forget.
If he doesn’t, then say “Well we’re in the same boat because I don’t know yours!” Exchange names, and put it in your phone if you think you’ll forget.
Here’s a less convoluted way: “hey [mate, bro, …] I never caught your name”
The only reason you need to know someone’s name is to talk about them behind their back.
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basic social etiquette lol
in other words, forced and unnatural and unnecessary behavior that is just a parasite eating your lifetime and energy
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Reject society, embrace raiding Anglo-Saxons with the homies.
An energy vampire you say…
Excellent point, if you’re just 1 on 1 with someone you dont need their name except to talk about them with someone else.
I’m always terrible with names but they do come in handy
Hey,who’s working ____'s shift Thursday?
Who do I need to talk to in HR?
who makes the schedule?
Ask ___ if they can cover your shift.
Email ____ for me and see if they have a copy of that report.
Can you tell ___ to come see me.
For real. Came into work for six months and talked to this dude about a bunch of stuff every time. Only a week ago did I find out his name. Now I can finally say his name instead of starting off with “hey bro”
At least you remember names. Someone can tell me their name, I’ll repeat it as suggested, forget it a few days later anyway.
I’ll remember a phone number before someone’s name.
Hell, I remember one dude as initials + his age when I met him. I don’t know why. Example: If I met John Doe aged 32, there’s a chance I’d remember him as “JD32”, and forget his actual name.
Shout-out to MK22, I forgot your name again.I just remember faces for 20 years, no clue about their names.
As long as you didn’t meet anyone named Martin Swanson at age 13…
I have a friend who has a lot of friends. Sometimes we hangout together, but rarely. I cannot for the life of me remember their names and I swear 3 of them look the fucking same to me. It’s always a struggle to keep pretending for hours until I finally hear someone call one of them by name. I remember that for a few hours. If we hangout again next day it resets out of my head again.
Could you possibly have face blindness?
I sometimes make a note with someone’s name and brief description that sticks to me.
Meet my friends R2D2 and C3P0
It’s cool. I don’t usually care about people‘s names that much, and I know he doesn’t care about my name, so why does it matter.
For the most part people can call me dude and bro until the end of time at work.
Or El Duderino, if they’re not into the whole brevity thing.
“I’m the dude, man”
“I once worked with a guy for three years and never learned his name. Best friend I ever had. We still never talk sometimes…” - Ron Swanson
It’s happened to me a few times over the years, but if anything it’s an opportunity to think up a nickname. Sometimes they stick and all.
We don’t need names, so long we vibe
Haha there’s a guy I hang out with at the library and I think he’s great.
Wanted to invite him to a party and realized I had no way to get in touch. No name or anything.
For like a month, I’ve been trying to visit the library at the same exact time to see if we bump into each other.
Library stranger, I hope we meet again.
If someone I just met uses my name regularly I feel like they’re trying to sell me something.
If someone I talk to keeps using my name, I think they’re following advice on how to remember names, and that they’re bad at names
‘The memory palace’ is the superior memorization method
But sometimes you meet people who you never see again. That brain space could be used for Vim keybindings.
Hello Jarvis!
Knowing someones name is a bit too intimate for my taste.
Oh thank god its not just me.
When I was around 20yo, I spent a summer with a new group of friends pretending I knew everyone’s names. It was anxiety hell. Today, I realize that I can just admit that I forget names and ask and it’s no problem. But that was an interesting summer.
Bro, homie, dawg, phil
It’s easy to go years without knowing names, better if you don’t use that last one
Bro, homie, dawg, phil
Phil and Phil (both whirling angrily to acknowledge you): “WHAT?!”
When I first started work I was in shop where there were three Bills, two Phil’s and two Neil’s . I never ever worked out who was who.
Something profound about only knowing someone by your shared experiences
Haha bro remember that time 10 years ago when we did that thing? Man that was nice.
