This is a good idea thanks! My wife and I talked about something similar recently. I think we’re going to try having some of our own office work scheduled for times when he is studying/revising.

My sense is that his problem isn’t particularly the understanding of the topic, it’s laying down a deep enough application of it to get the marks in the exams.

We’ve talked about his situation, but not in a formal ‘he needs support’ kind of way. When he’s getting low As and Bs it’s really hard to talk about him not meeting his potential, I just look like a pushy parent.

I think what I’m mostly worrying about myself is that the future he wants for himself needs grades that he’s capable of intellectually, but not at the work rate he’s able to do today. I know that things usually work out, but it’s still hard in the moment to see that he might miss out on his dream goals.

I switched out the router and things started working. Very weird, but I can’t tho jot anything other than it being the Virgin Media hub not liking it. Apparently they have history on this.

Yes, everything looks right. I moved dhcp resolution from the router to technitium recently, but hadn’t set up local resolution.

I’m currently thinking the router is the culprit. Here in the UK there are lots of forum posts complaining about the Virgin Media gear. Nothing specifically describes my problem but I’m going to try a new router over the weekend.

Thanks for the suggestion, I’ll grab a cap to check.

I’m running tcpdump -i any port 53. I can see the outbound request but not the reply. Will the cap show me anything more?

Thanks for giving it some thought!

I have been testing using dig @192.168.0.249 study.lan

3, 4, and 5 work for TXT, NS and SOA but doesn’t work for A records. I think this rules out a simple network issue?

Thanks for replying, I appreciate the response.

I’m running dig @192.168.0.249 study.lan from my client (a MacBook).

If I run ‘dig @192.168.0.249 study.lan TXT’ I get a correct response (I have added a txt record)

If I run ‘dig @192.168.0.249 lan SOA’ or ‘NS’ I correctly get the records for the zone.

I think this eliminates the possibility of it being a routing error?

It’s hard to not make them sound trivial, but you’ll see some of them in the memes that pass through here. Off the top of my head though:

• the importance of routine/consistency. He got up at the same time almost every day for 50 years. He went to the gym before anything got in the way, that sort of thing.
• he pushes conscious decision making, of following through on things and being definite. Do not let yourself be guided by what you want in the moment, be guided by what you plan and intend.
• put things in the same place. Put things back where you got them from. Don’t rely on your memory, rely on your habits.

When I write these they seem silly and trivial, but they help me a lot.

It’s hard though. A key criteria (at least in the UK) how much it affects you day-to-day. My father probably has it and passed along a lot of guidance that I now recognise as coping mechanisms/symptom management strategies. Day to day I’ve got it in hand, it’s only when the big storms come that I struggle, and that doesn’t fit with the diagnostic approach.

I don’t know how tech savvy you are, but I’m assuming since your on lemmy it’s pretty good :)

The way we’ve solved this sort of problem in the office is by using the LLM’s JSON response, and a prompt that essentially keeps a set of JSON objects alongside the actual chat response.

In the DND example, this would be a set character sheets that get returned every response but only changed when the narrative changes them. More expensive, and needing a larger context window, but reasonably effective.

I have this battle - I am great at routine but terrible at habit. My wife asks me why I do the same thing every day, and I can’t really explain that I have to do it every day or i’ll stop doing it completely.

Listen. Well done. Just because it’s simple, doesn’t mean it’s easy.

Now go and put away your laundry. /s

I like to take it a step further - make the act of getting ready for the task a separate task. Other folks might see a single job, but when I have some repair work needing done around the house, I need a job to check if I have what I need to fix it, another to work out what I need to do, another to move it all to right place etc.